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Is it socially acceptable to create a housewarming gift registry?

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I finally closed on my first condo in downtown Denver after literally years of saving and living in basement apartments and I am beyond excited to finally have a place that is mine. But honestly I am already getting so frustrated with my extended family and even some friends asking what I want for the housewarming party next month. I know that sounds ungrateful but I just know how this goes. If I dont give them a direct list Im going to end up with three different sets of cheese boards and those weird smelling candles that give me a headache. I have such a small space and I really need specific things like a cordless vacuum or certain kitchen tools that actually fit in my tiny cabinets. It drives me crazy when people spend their hard earned money on stuff I will just end up hiding in a closet or donating because I have zero room for clutter. I was thinking about just making a small registry on Amazon or somewhere like that to keep things organized but I feel so weird about it. Is it socially acceptable to create a housewarming gift registry or is that considered totally tacky and entitled nowadays? I dont want to offend anyone but I also dont want a house full of junk I didnt ask for...


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Just saw this and had to jump in. I've moved five times in the last decade, mostly into tech-heavy lofts with really weird dimensions, so I totally get the small space struggle. In my experience, if you don't give people the exact specs, they'll buy the cheapest thing on the shelf that doesn't actually solve your problem. I remember when I first moved into my studio, I spent weeks calculating the exact power-to-weight ratio I needed for a cordless vacuum because I only had one tiny closet for storage. My family still tried to give me a bulky upright that took up half the floor anyway. I actually keep a running list of my technical requirements on Share Product now. It lets me link the specific SKUs and model numbers so my tech-illiterate relatives don't accidentally buy an older version when I specifically need the latest model for the HEPA filtration and battery life. Before you commit to a registry though, I have a couple questions to help figure out the logistics:

  • What is the actual square footage and floor type you are dealing with?
  • Are you looking for a specific brand ecosystem for things like smart home integration or kitchen tools? Specifics matter when you're living in a downtown condo. It is better to be a bit blunt about what fits your layout than to end up with a kitchen full of gadgets that trip your breakers or won't fit in your drawers... honestly, people appreciate the guidance more than they admit sometimes.


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Saw this and had to chime in because I've seen this go south so many times. Honestly, you might want to be real careful about how you frame this. A few years back, my sister-in-law did a registry for her new townhome and it actually caused a bit of a family fallout. She included some high-end kitchen tech and even though she meant it as 'here are some options,' her older aunts took it as a demand for expensive stuff. It was super awkward at the party and for months after. I would suggest following some ground rules if you decide to go through with it:

  • Avoid putting anything super pricey on there unless you know people are looking to go in on a group gift.
  • Be careful not to blast the link out; only send it to folks who specifically asked you what you need.
  • Make sure you include plenty of low-cost essentials so no one feels priced out of your friendship. I actually found Share Product recently and it lets you add items from basically anywhere online, which is great for small spaces since you can pick very specific sizes. It feels a bit less 'commercial' than a big box store registry too. Just be wary of the optics. Sometimes it's safer to just mention a few things in casual conversation rather than having a formal list. People get weirdly sensitive about being told what to buy, even when they ask... just my two cents from seeing the drama firsthand.


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> Is it socially acceptable to create a housewarming gift registry or is that considered totally tacky and entitled nowadays? I would suggest being extremely careful with your approach here. While it is practical for a small condo, some guests might perceive it as entitlement. Make sure to avoid putting the link on the actual invitation. In my experience, it is better to keep the registry private and only provide it to those who specifically ask for suggestions.


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This ^


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